Dynamics of a Transformational Person (2of4)

This is the second of four BLOGS dedicated to reflecting more of the “why” of being a transformational person. My premise is that if someone understands the “why” being of transformational person it will sustain them, inspire them, and give them sustainability.

Transformational people are inner-directed!

At first blush this may sound that I’m advocating a type of focusing on self that borders on narcissism. Actually, it is quite the opposite. The airlines have been instructing passengers for decades that if the emergency oxygen masks deploy and you have a child be sure to put your mask on first. They are reminding parents that to “be there” for their child they need to take care of themselves first.

All of us face some kind of “normal” whereby we tend to define ourselves by the opinions, beliefs, and perceptions of others. Marketing campaigns are designed to appeal to our temptation to purchase products based on how it will establish us in relation to other people. They have learned that whether we like it or not, there is a part of us that is tempted by social pressure. It is manifested at its worst when we make decisions based on upon “what other people think.”

The ugly truth is that if we are intentional, this ugly dynamic will be a driving force by which we measure our success and compare ourselves to others.

Transformational people – who are pursuing inner transformation and a new normal – choose a different perspective. They intentionally put rhythms in their life to support the “why”: they seek to become people who are inner-directed.

  • They are clear about their values and define themselves by these non-negotiable.
  • Their values not only give them strength and freedom. They approach life with a deep sense of calmness because they have clarity about who they are.
  • Because they have deep-seated values they are able to view situations with a more complex understanding because the situation does not define them.
  • They recalibrate to their values on a regular basis in order to assure that their behaviors match their intentions.

If you want to take some steps on becoming a transformational person, step two is to be clear about your values. When you know the “why” your “how” and “what” will have the right inspiration and direction.

What if… you knew your values and aligned to them regularly?

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6 Responses to Dynamics of a Transformational Person (2of4)

  1. Tim Hogan says:

    Well said, Mark. And this is deceptively difficult! From the time we are babies we learn to scan our world and do whatever it takes to make people smile and offer us soothing. Yet, serious transformation so often requires that we follow the wisdom of St. Ignatius and go against this grain so that we are true to our deepest Selves. Thank you, Mark, for keeping this freeing truth in front of us!

    • Mark says:

      @Tim – I like the term “deceptively difficult!” So this is so ingrained in us that we need to make intentional decisions to think differently. Great insight!

      That reminds me again of the importance of digging deep to find my values and then making the regular commitment to align to them.

  2. farouk says:

    i strongly agree with you Mark, without that kind of ones self transformation might not be possible, keep it up 🙂

  3. Sibyl says:

    Mark: I really appreciated everything you said here especially the part about recalibrating your life so that it matches your values. I think that is a great way to line up everything in your life and make certain that you are always moving in the right direction. You allow your values to take the lead and then everything else should follow accordingly. Great message and post.

    • Mark says:

      @Sibyl – Yes, recalibration is certainly the on-going commitment that we (or at least I) need to remember. They drill deeper the behavior that matches our values. Thanks for your support.

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